Exactly 9 years (March 2010) ago my husband and I had a “talk”. I didn’t know what was going on but I knew we couldn’t continue living like this. I made an appointment with a counselor at our church. My husband had been drinking nightly by himself for years. I had no idea we were living in active alcoholism. We both didn’t know the first thing about this disease. He wasn’t happy I was going to the church counselor. BUT He agreed to come to the appointment the next week and the ball started rolling! We met weekly individually and separately for 2 months . The counselor was very wise and had my husband evaluate his drinking and come up with the idea he needs to do “something”. After many different scenarios he finally had him say he could/would try to only drink one drink a night. Well that sounded great to everyone but didn’t pan out. The very wise counselor knew it wouldn’t . When we realized that wasn’t working we went into action. His brothers were now on our team. My husband thought they were NOT on his team but they were. My husband was very paranoid at this time. His brothers were super helpful and got him to a “detox” . The professional staff there ( at Pine Grove) after a few days recommended 90 days of inpatient. My husband didn’t think so! So he left! We tried regrouping and meeting again daily with the counselor. Finally (3 days later) after an unplanned and unthought-out Intervention, we ( hours and hours and hours later) got him to admit he’d go to inpatient treatment. It wasn’t a good night. I had his Dad come over and sleep on the couch. My husband was extremely depressed.
His 2 brothers,2 friends and our 3 sons were at the “intervention “. Like I said it wasn’t planned but God had it figured out. This is one of the many things that happened in this journey where God answered prayers we didn’t even pray!
The next morning he didn’t want to get out of bed. He said he felt like he was going to his funeral. Our children were all around (12th,10th,7th and 6th grades). One of my sons came into the bedroom and wrote down bible verses for him to take with him.
We finally got in the car to head south! A good friend drove him in his car. That was one of our compromises..he could have his car even though he couldn’t drive it while he was there. His brothers and I drove behind them . It felt very gloomy and dark and dreary. My stomach was in knots. The few people and family who knew were praying back in Jackson.
We dropped him off . It wasn’t fun at all. He was VERY depressed and mad 😡!
Well he stayed and bought in! It took about 45 days for for him to really realize he needed to be there! He stayed 45 more! There were MANY moments where God went before us! We knew he was in this trial with us but time and time again he proved that to us! One was having his TL (Therapuric leave) timed where he could be at his oldest sons high school graduation. He missed a lot while he was gone. One uncle took our daughter to the daddy daughter dance at Cotillion. Another son had a high ankle sprain in high school basketball. All grandparents and aunts and uncles came to my oldest sons senior party. This would be his first season not coaching our youngest son in baseball. Many people stepped in with carpooling, grocery shopping and bringing meals! Our church really was at a lost as what to do. He was a church officer and wrote most of the preachers from rehab. He thought they would want him to “step down” from his position. My husband realized our church needed to be better prepared for this type of “problem”. He started working on that as soon as he got home. I’m attaching 2 different forums where he spoke at church. He has spoken at other churches and and told his story at AA speaker meetings. I’m very proud of him. He’s very open to telling anyone anytime his story. He says it helps him as much as it helps the person who needs help or guidance.
Our life has drastically changed in last 9 years. I try my best to live one day at a time. I’m full of empathy for the alcoholic/addict/alanon who hasn’t found recovery. I’ve learned a lot in Alanon and open AA meetings. I’ve learned to stay in my own hoola hoop and stay in my lane! I’ve learned to work on me. That’s all I can control!
We are planning our oldest sons wedding(4/2019) now. One of my husbands “things/thoughts” he had on the way to rehab was “How will I do a toast at our children’s weddings?” ” I’m going to be gone on my birthday ” etc.
I understand God plans and He knows everything but it’s awful hard while you’re in the middle of it! God loves those he gives trials too! I’ve realized I need to just go through them and not around it or under it. James 1:2 was a verse I had to really ponder! Let Go Let God was also super important.. saying that helped me remember to hand everything over to God!
I visited every weekend and took the children some. We wrote letters. They were special. We had been living life on separate roads but now are on the same road walking side by side. A lot of times we’ve felt God was so close to us he was riding our shoulders. God restored our life and Marriage! I also could attend church sometimes with him while he was there . The rehab took them to a “rock-n-roll” Baptist church and we really enjoyed it. I realized that it doesn’t matter what your worship looks like as long as you’re worshipping.
While at rehab there were lots of crazy things happening all the time. I was juggling a lot at home. When he got a call home he had a lot of stories to tell about all that was going on there. I wish he had written a book. There were some bizarre things happening at rehab.
He now goes to ALOT of meetings a week. I go to a few also . They are so helpful! I am amazed how good I feel when I leave a meeting. Mostly other people’s problems are way worse than mine. It puts things in perspective. Alcoholism is a family disease.
When we used to hear that someone went to rehab we immediately thought bad. Now when we hear that we are thrilled! It means the person is getting better! They are getting help! Rehab/Treatment is good!
Another thing that has helped me is talking about it. It gets it out of your head and takes the power away! Also my husband likes to say the aa community was so anonymous that he didn’t know here was a way out! Because of that he shares his story all the time and is willing to talk to anyone anytime. He is not anonymous.
Hiking around Steamboat
Going out west is always a fun vacation! Here are some hiking highlights.. These are some great places to hike with beautiful views.. hiking Hahn’s Peak, hiking Pearl Lake and hiking Fish Creek Falls. Hahn’s Peak is very hard..straight up with lots of switch backs but worth it! ( I didn’t make it to very top) The elevation goes from 8200 to 10800. I could hardly breathe! We hiked around Pearl Lake and to Fish Creek Falls. They are both about 1 mile round trip and relatively flat..
Favorite places to eat
Our favorite restaurants in Steamboat.. Creekside Cafe for brunch or lunch. Try to get a table outside by the creek. Ore House is a great steak house. Salt and Lime is delicious Tex mex . If the weather is nice get a table on the roof. Winonas is delicious for breakfast or lunch. The downtown Farmers Mkt is 3-4 blocks long along the river on Yampa street. It’s on Saturdays 8-2 I think, Highly recommend! Hahns Peak Roadhouse is just like it sounds! Fun local pool hall/restaurant. On The way to Hahn’s peak on CR 129 you pass by Clark Colorado where The Home ranch is and The Clark store. The Clark store is definitely a must stop. We flew into Eagle CO and drove to Edwards, CO for lunch. We loved Hovis and Harrison which is a cafe, bakery and market!
The Steamboat rodeo is a very American family activity. The cowgirl going slow around the arena with the American flag is the most patriotic thing! 🇺🇸 Below is a video! There is saddle bronc riding, cowgirl barrel racing, bull riding, tie-down roping, steer wrestling,bareback riding and junior and pee wee events. The announcer explains every event. We all thoroughly enjoyed it. My son is interested in the team roping.
Horseback Riding on the Continental Divide 🤠🐎
VRBO information We stayed in a VRBO on the side of town where my son lives. It’s a brand new neighborhood with brand new houses and we loved it!
The Cossar family has been going to Cossar State Park (www.mdwfp.com) since 1979. We have our family reunion there once a year. Usually in May or June. It is on the shores of Enid Lake about 7 miles off the Oakland exit . There are 13 air conditioned cabins and 83 campsites.
My sisters and I went with our mom Elizabeth Cossar to The King and Prince in St Simons GA for her 80th birthday 🎂 ..No children..No husbands.. Just us!
Our shopping recommendations: Savannah Bee Company has cool store. We loved Diana Bailey (@dianebaileydesigns) and her ladies shop! We also liked Go Fish, Viola Market, Two Friends (@twofriends-stsimons), Butlers Stash, KJ Clothier, and Bailey Boys (@the_bailey_boys). Bailey Boys’s is a wonderful local children’s clothes line that also has fabulous back room with lots of choices and deep discounts on their clothes.
Our food recommendations: Porch is a great spot for lunch. For dinner, Coastal kitchen (delicious shrimp salad and great views), Ember (delicious pizza and Brussels sprout appetizer), Halyard’s (fabulous shrimp taco), and lastly Tramici (excellent service, pizza, & chicken piccata) . Also Echo At The King and Prince very good. If you happen to be there on a Wednesday lots of fun happening with the karaoke singer!
The Island Day Spa is wonderful! My massage was in of the top 5! We all loved our therapists! Highly recommend! 💆♀️
Another 80th birthday surprise was that my younger sister Mary Payne Gilbert got the comedian LeeAnn Morgan to do a personalized video birthday message that was hilarious! Watch it here: https://v.cameo.com/e/iRo9Q6mGTgb
Last pic taken in the Atlanta airport ✈️
Below is the article for the Northside Sun:
Garraway and Moore wedding February 13th, 2021
Kendall Marie Garraway and John Thompson Cossar Moore were united in marriage on Saturday, February 13th at 2 o’clock in the afternoon at The Cathedral of St. Peter in Jackson, Mississippi. Father Aaron Williams officiated the ceremony. Nuptial music was provided by Frances Nelson, organist and Sonya Loper, soloist. 🎶 The bride is the daughter of Mr. and Mrs. Kendall Greaves Garraway of Jackson, Mississippi. She is the granddaughter of the late Mr. and Mrs. Frederick West Garraway of Jackson and the late Doctor Dominick Manuel Lago of New Orleans and Mrs. Madeline Marie Lago of New Orleans. 👰🏼♀️ The bridegroom is the son of Doctor and Mrs. James Love Moore, Junior of Jackson, Mississippi. He is the grandson of Mr. and Mrs. James Love Moore of Jackson and Mr. and Mrs. John Thompson Cossar of Madison. Groom🤵🏼
Given in marriage by her parents, the bride wore a custom Britt Wood Designs LLC of Atlanta, Georgia white strapless gown with a low back silk Mikado bodice and an A-line skirt made of silk organza with a chapel train. She finished her ensemble with a royal cathedral veil made of silk tulle. Her bouquet was filled with queen annes lace, ranunculus, astilbe, stock and lily of the valley. The bouquet was complete with a family rosary, diamond and gold rings, blush pink silk ribbon and monogrammed double faced satin ribbon.
The bride’s Maid of Honor was her sister, Caroline Garraway and her Matron of Honor was Margaret Morgan McKemey. Bridesmaids were Frances Chase, Ali Corbin, Emily Dance, Marguerite Johnson, Sally Farrington Thompson, Katie Love Garraway Owen, Sara Anderson Tynes, Murray Miller, and Luci Moore. Honorary Bridesmaids were Chesley Wilson Crider, Emily Haberstroh, Margaret Harkness Morgan, Kendal Herring Peterman, Ginny Luckie Farmer, Mary Ellen Lewis, Alex Cockayne, Chandler Clarkson, Ann Marie Lyons and Hannah Farris Moore. Hastings Owen, cousin of the bride, was the flower girl. Bridesmaids wore different gowns in shades of white, cream, and ivory.
The bridegroom’s Best Man was his father, Jimmy Moore. Groomsmen were Sanford Moore, Harrison Moore, Douglas Haick, Wayland Swann, Costa Kell, Matthew Gude, Tripp McKemey, Whit Kendall, Christopher Schell and John Garraway. Ushers were Cossar Morgan and Daniel Haas.
On the eve of the wedding, the bridegroom’s parents hosted a rehearsal dinner fish fry for the wedding party and family at The Cedars in Jackson. Travelin’ Jane provided the entertainment. The bridal brunch on the day of the wedding was cherry blossom themed, paying homage to the newlyweds home, Washington, D.C.
Following the ceremony, the bride’s parents hosted a reception for wedding party and family at The Raymond on the historic square in Raymond, Mississippi. After the couple’s first dance to “You Make Loving Fun” by Fleetwood Mac, sung by Kate Teague, guests were entertained by the Patrick Harkins band. The three-tiered traditional bride’s cake featured a smooth cream cheese frosting. It was displayed on a large silver pedestal adorned with white roses and displayed under a floral wrapped industrial chandelier. The bridegroom’s cake was a five-tiered display of Manny Randazzo’s King Cake from New Orleans.
The newlyweds traveled to Antiqua for their wedding trip. The couple is at home in Washington, D.C. The bride and bridegroom both graduated from Jackson Preparatory and the University of Mississippi. Currently, the bride is a Legislative Assistant for Senator Cindy Hyde-Smith and the bridegroom is a Professional Staff Member on the US Senate Appropriations Committee, Homeland Security Subcommittee.
Garden of the Gods is a popular natural landmark nestled at the foot of Pikes Peak on the west side of Colorado Springs. It is known for its massive red rocks sticking straight out of the ground – it was quite impressive!
No Climbers on the day we were there! It was very windy!
This is called Siamese twins.
Balanced Rock, poised above the park road at the Garden of the Gods, defies the laws of physics as it balances on a sloped ledge of sandstone. The famed boulder, appearing in publications around the world as one of the best examples of a balancing rock, is the most famous rock formation at the Garden of the Gods!
We made it to the Summit today! Yesterday it was only open to 11,000 feet and this afternoon they opened it to the TOP —14,115 feet! So we took off. It was a VERY EXTRA scary drive. It’s 19 miles total! I prayed, leaned into the middle of the car, held my breath, couldn’t talk, and prayed some more. My hands were sweating. My husband did a fabulous job ..but it was still one of the most scariest things we have ever done! I really can’t describe the roads and switchbacks. There was no railing, but it was icy and very windy. My favorite thing was the beautiful scenery. You could see for miles.
Here are some pictures that I took. I have more on my good camera, but these are iPhone pictures from mine and my husbands phone…
this is a view from the 13000 feet stop(mile marker 13)
I was a nervous wreck. It felt weird standing up. Almost like I was on a ride at the fair.
14,115 feet! We did it!
This is from the top right where we parked our car.
Cool and Windy! Notice construction crew behind us working on new observation deck and cog railway.
Mile Marker 18.. Usually big horn sheep are in this area.
We didn’t see Big Foot
Its $15 per person to drive up this scenic highway, and it is worth it!
We wanted to go visit our son in Colorado and also take a vacation. We were not wanting to fly on a plane so we decided to drive. It’s about a 20-ish hour drive from Mississippi. We first stopped in Dallas and stayed with a friend and ate dinner with some friends and had a great time. We got up early the next morning and left in a huge lightning storm before 6 AM and got to Colorado Springs by 6 PM. It was a long day in the car. We listened to the podcast called “Missing in Alaska” for most of the day. We stopped in Amarillo for lunch and ate at a wonderful healthy place called Eat Rite. That night we stayed at the Broadmoor and thoroughly enjoyed it. The next day we drove to Steamboat and stayed three days. They got 8 to 10 inches of snow while we were there and the temperature got down to -10. We stayed at the Inn at Steamboat – and loved it. It is quite small but a great place to stay. You get breakfast, hot tea, and cookies in the afternoon. They also have a washing machine that you can use.
We went to watch our son Harrison at work. They were doing pregnancy checks on over 200 cows at the ranch that day.
The next day we went with him to feed the cows and horses.
This is Panda, my Granddog. He is a wonderful ranch dog and loves telling the cows where to go!
After 3 days in Steamboat, we drove back to The Broadmoor for 3 more days. Then headed back to Mississippi. We listened to the Audiobook called “The last Plane in the Sky.” It was fascinating.
We ‘celebrated’ our anniversary… just a few months late!
Golf on the East Course at The Broadmoor
Beautiful MoonRise over Texas!